Taken For Granted...

Hey this post may seem boring but at the end you all will accept the meaning implied in it. I hope you'll think upon it and act accordingly.

We are connected with many people around us. It may be be connecting through social networking sites or connecting with them personally or both. These include many relations which we have given a name. We are related as brothers, friends, husbands, wives, sons, daughters, grandson, granddaughter, mother, father, lover, secret admirer, teacher etc. But sometimes we do things for others inspite of not having any relation. Like we give some change to the beggar or the leftover food to the vagabonds and rouges. Why do we do this? I felt like doing it so i did it is the most common answer. Do we care about these people so much? If yes then imagine our love and care for our closed ones. Logically speaking it should be greater than that received by these non-related people. There lies the twist...

We usually don't bother about the feelings of our loved one when we act or do something. Is it like we care about the people who are less special to us and don't care about special people? Its a common thing. For e.g. we usually tend to sms or reply fast to a new friend than reply to an old friend or to a close person. This is because we think that the old friend or the closed one will understand us and will definitely wait longer. This is what I mean by TAKING FOR GRANTED...

Its not always friends , but it can be your siblings, your parents or any other relative. Most often its the parents or the dearest friend. We say chalta hai re. This is what I'm trying to say that why do we think that its our friend (or mom or dad or any close one), he'll understand us. Why should always the other side understand you? You have no right to think in this fashion! Like you gave a commitment to your parents of spending a Sunday evening with them. They feel so happy and make arrangements a day before. But just an hour before you say my friends called and we are going for a movie, you two carry on! This situation just showed us that how much we take our parents for granted. We never thought about their feeling and emotions. We love them more but care the least about them! Isn't it very strange? We normally meet our collogue almost everyday and if one day he/she is absent we text or call him/her asking about his absence. But we never call or text our close friend whom we have met months before. This doesn't mean that you care less about your friend, it just means that you have TAKEN FOR GRANTED that he/she will be well unless he/she calls and tells us what the problem is. Also when you spend time with your friends and cancel a dinner with your wife you take her for granted. You assume that she will understand you. If she says i didn't like it then the fight starts with I thought atleast you will understand... and the fight goes on. Here also the wife is TAKEN FOR GRANTED. This list of situations never ends...

From the above stated situations I personally believe that you should not take your close ones, your dearest people FOR GRANTED as they are the one who are going to be with you through the ups and downs of life. By taking them for granted you are risking your support! So I feel that never take your parents and close friends for granted. Its rightly said that as book when held close to our eyes cannot be read in the same way we often cannot read the emotions and feelings of our loved ones (unless they tell it to you openly). Thus we take them FOR GRANTED. So my sincere request to you readers is that after reading this post just think upon this fact and then pick up your phone and call your dearest person and talk to him/her. Both of you will feel better... Trust me...

Second Chance...

I'll try my best to make this post as crisp and as short as possible....

Giving someone another chance is the biggest risk in today's world. This gesture of ours is highly influenced by the mistake committed by the person and the serious effects of it. But i feel if the person has really accepted his mistake, is begging for forgiveness then he should be given a second chance. Before taking any decisions you first look at the other side of the coin. Just try to hear and analyse the criminal's point of view. Just put yourself in his place and then think how you would have reacted. Come on, people are bound to make mistakes and yes they might affect you alot but that doesn't mean that you just get angry on them and shut the door!

The ability of giving a second chance differs from person to person. If a person is very vindictive then he might not even look at the other side. Whereas if a person is very analytical he will judge both the sides and then give his verdict. The verdict is controlled by the relation factor. If he/she is your close friend or any other close person you tend to have a soft corner for him/her. But sometime when a close person does a mistake he gets a harsher punishment than any other person can get. It is because we trust that person alot and once trust is broken all seems to fall apart. Also the circumstances govern the verdict. The mood of the person who gives you the verdict also matters alot.

But does that mean that we should not give second chance to people? NO! Its not so. Criminals who have accepted their crime should be given another chance to improve themselves rather than being harshly treated. This kills the leftover innocence and the conscience of that person and that person feels that its useless regretting as he wont get another chance. So criminals should be constantly monitored and some of them do show signs of change. They feel guilty about the act and yes the self introspect and transform their character completely. JIMMY VALENTINE by O. Henry clearly highlights this theme. In his story a very shrewd burglar transforms as he falls in love with a sophisticated lady. So there are incidences which may transform the criminal. The story of DHOOM-2 also highlights the similar ideology. In-fact sage Valmiki who was originally a rouge named Valya transformed himself when he was given a second chance! So why can't we ordinary people transform when given a second chance?

Thus in short I just want to say that please try to analyse the other side. Just try to understand under what circumstances that person acted like that and then judge him/her. Jumping to the conclusion in fit of rage is not the done thing. Sometimes if forgiving deepens the bond that you had shared, you can see amazing changes the person does to prove himself/herself. You will be amazed the way that person will be thankful to you for giving him/her a second chance. So readers if someone has committed a mistake and asked for a second chance, please give him/her another chance...